“When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead,
you can look beside you
and your best friend will be there.” ~ Anonymous
this is a post yg i nk kaitkan with what i heard on radio yesterday morning. a caller citer kt deejays about her dilemma that (jeng3X) her best friend is overprotective of her. this is something yg boleh dikongsi bersama cz br2 ni de kwn yg ckp kt i "mungkin ke aku ni overprotective sgt dgn ko ye?" mari kita lihat jns2 overprotective yg kita buat (or, kita rasa kita buat) terhdp our best friend(s)...
overprotective about pemakanan
eh, bkn ke bgs de best friend cenggini? yelaaahhh... kalo kwn biasa2 tegur "eh, kau dh gemuk. cuba la kurgkn mkn" mesti rs skt ati (mesti, kn?!!! sila setuju). tp bila best friend ckp "weh, ko ni dh makin berisi aku tgk. tlg la kurgkn minum teh tarik... ais or air sejuk2 jgn minum sgt... blablabla...", trus boleh mendtgkn rs keinsafan (true?). ala, ngaku jelah... deep down in your heart (i mean, dlm hati yg DITEGUR), dia tau bahawa best friend dia yg MENEGUR tu nk dia mengamalkan gaya hidup yg sihat (ecehcehceh...)... whether it's to shed some weight, or to put on some weight.
overprotective about penampilan
bila kuar dgn best friend & nk beli bj (contohnye), sure + confirm2 (leh kerat jari py confirm nih) akn consult dgn best friend psl bj yg nk beli tu cntk/sesuai x dgn kita. best friend dh jadi ala2 cermin kita... nk beli kasut pn ty opinion best friend (wpun size kaki best friend x sama dgn kaki sndiri). nk beli handbag pn sama. nk beli tudung/scarf pn sama. nk beli luggage pn sama (eh, luggage berkait dgn penampilan ke? ngeheeee...). best friend akn bg opinion tulus ikhlas dr hati diorg... "weh, x cantik la kt kaki ko"... "erm, kaler sgt out dgn muka ko"... "mcm x berkenan la aku tgk design tudung tu".... "lerrrr, balik2 kaler ijau/purple/orange/kuning/merah/pink/etc2 je. cuba la cari kaler lain"... tu sume akn didengari dr mulut bestfriend. mmg para pompn2 tau, ukur baju di bdn sendiri. mungkin org akn pertikaikan, "so, why bother pe best friend nk ckp? kalo sndiri suka, beli je. knp nk ikut ckp best friend?" ok, stop right there... i didn't say anything about IKUT CKP best friend, kn? i just ckp pompn2 akn CONSULT best friend, nothing being mentioned about pompn2 akn IKUT CKP best friend, hehehe. best friend cuma being overprotective & bg komen ikhlas... sama ada nk ikut or x, terpulg pd masing2.
overprotective about berkwn
best friend being BEST FRIEND... dh knl kita abis2an punya la. they know what we like/hate to wear, what we like/hate to eat, what we like/hate to do, what type of person we hate/like to meet. maka bila kita ckp "err... aku knl dgn Mr. X. ehehehe (sambil gelak gatal/gelak syaitonirrajim)", best friend akn ckp "berhati2, jgn terlalu suka cz mungkin tu fling sahaja". or, bila kita ckp "emmm... arini aku jmp dgn Mr. Y, borak2, gelak2", best friend akn cpt bg nsht "berhati2, jgn terlalu suka. aku takut ko terluka". or, bila kita ckp "eh, arini aku jmp Mr. Z. dia ckp aku npk cantik (contoh sahaja, ok?!!)", best friend akn ckp "berhati2, jgn terperangkap dgn ayt2 manis cenggitu". yg dinasihati x rs pn kecik ati/sentap/sprti terlalu di"protect" oleh best friend cz we know that our best friend cuma concern psl kita... dats y they r called best friend =) apa2 pun, best friend akn support kita wpun 1)kita terslh pilih kwn... and 2)wpun kita dh terslh buat decision... and 3)kita decide something yg best friend tu x suka tp eventually best friend akn doakn utk kita cz dia kn best friend, hehehe....
hmmm... all d overprotective-ness listed above cuma dialami oleh pompn2 je kot. among lelaki2, agak2nye ada ke? rs cm xde. wpun x berlaku among lelaki2 (best friend lelaki & lelaki sll diskus amenda eh?), sila renung2kn ayt from the deejay:-
"a good friend will stab you from front.
but a not-so-good friend will stab your back".